Walking in Honesty, Walking in Peace by Sandy
We all have addictions, flaws ad mistakes we make in our lives. We are human and it is natural for us to do all these things. However, certain behaviors are not tolerated when you want to be a successful person and keep worthy friendships. Lying is one of the behaviors that is not tolerated and should not be. When we lie we are not only hurting the people we lie too, we are also hurting ourselves. Its something that hurts just as if we had committed a crime. Everybody knows lying is bad, whether it’s a white lie or a compulsive lie. It is not the truth therefore it is wrong.
There are many factors that cause people to lie, one of them is fear. We fear we are not good enough , that our truth is not good enough. At times we think the easiest way out of fear is lying, not facing our reality. Fear relates to low self-esteem, because if we were confident we would not have to be afraid of our truth. Another reason that we lie is because we are angry, angry at someone or something. We think life isn’t fair therefore we try to change our lives by lying. The ironic thing about lying is that we think it will avoid conflict however, it only brings more conflict to our lives.
Breaking an agreement is quite like lying. We say we are going to do something, agree on doing it and then take no course of action to do it; breaking the agreement. There are many excuses or reasons that prevent us from keeping our agreement. It still doesn’t matter to the other person to whom we made that agreement to. As far as they know we lied and disrespected them by not keeping the agreement. That is why we must take action. We create our own world, and we are responsible for the choices we make. One must do whatever it takes to make the right choice in order to benefit both parties.
When we lie to people whoever it may be family, teachers, strangers or friends we are disrespecting them and expressing that they aren’t important enough to hear the truth. One thing that can break a relationship between two people is wrecking trust. Trust is something that takes many years to build and yet so little to break. Why cause that damage on that relationship? The lie itself is carried on one's shoulders and its like unsolved puzzle that never seizes to leave one’s mind. It can really cause damage in our lives.
Actions such as lying and breaking agreements can be avoided and spare the feeling of those involved. This can be done by thinking of the other party involved and just how much ones actions will affect them. One must then ask questions such as, are those people important to me, do I want people not to trust me? All these questions and more play a significant role in the choices we make. The most important question however is, what is the consequence of my action? If the answer is harm or pain then think twice about what you will do.
There isn’t a better feeling than having integrity, the feeling itself is so comforting more comforting than the feeling of lying. When one speaks with truth the mind, body, soul feel completely liberated. That is why we should free ourselves from lies and let ourselves be and show those people of who we really are, not be afraid, not be afraid of those around us, not to be afraid of ourselves. Being free is the most gratifying feeling one can experience because there is no negativity surrounding one. We should love and cherish ourselves by loving ourselves and walking in honesty in order to walk in peace.